Months ago I forgot to finish writing a contribution to some feature online about important life lessons. It’s a sign of my ongoing amateurishness, I guess, that I didn’t want to what I typed out to go to waste.
So: Life Lessons.
1. Don’t try to turn a group against a particular person. No matter how clever you are, someone will notice.
2. People are much likelier to heed your advice when they ask you for it, and much less likely to ask you for advice if you’ve offered it unsolicited in the past.
3. Your feelings at any given moment are not the only ones you have. Neglecting the quieter emotions (lingering disappointment,mild guilt, long-term apprehension about a project you’re involved in) can be what makes you intolerable to yourself and to others.
4. There is an important and annoyingly elusive difference between something happening to you and something being done to you.
5. When everything’s great, you may feel superior to others; when something goes wrong, others will likely be on your mind too much. Before you beat yourself up or praise your own name, think honestly about how much of what you do is meant to impress people.
6. If you are not sure whether you take something for granted, try to imagine no longer having it as of right now.
7. Sometimes you have to suffer. It’s easier to find someone who wastes their suffering than someone who knows that moments of pain are the best chances they’ll get to learn about themselves without worrying about that sounding cheesy.
8. The difference between those who practice and those who don’t practice is that those who practice tend to practice and those who don’t, don’t.
9. If you can offer a sincere apology, you are a treasure. Most apologies are insincere.
10. It is okay to make mistakes. And most of us seem incapable of hearing that without rolling our eyes. And we wonder why we suffer.
11. If you find yourself often telling people that you are “not” something (possessive, jealous, insecure), ask yourself why you feel the need to tell them that.